It is a characteristic of elders, like so many of us, to be hesitant to accept the assistance of strangers in their home. These emotions are to be expected. I always make mention of this in conversations with adult family members – their parents and aging relatives have gotten this far in life on their own terms…so in many cases it is difficult to convince them (seniors) now to accept change. Initially, seniors may feel uncomfortable with any kind of outside “assistance” or home care staff in their “living space”, whether that is a single family home, condo, or apartment. They are simply not accustomed to having another person in their “space”…they have never hired homecare services. And in many instances, seniors do not understand how best to efficiently manage and derive benefit from the assistance and expertise of home care staffers.

Elderly clients may be content, or resigned, with how they are aging. One day simply leads to the next. Our experience has shown that the best approach to bolster transition pointing toward an acceptance of care services may be to simply “start slowly”. Don’t overwhelm the senior with momentous decisions. Do not, if possible, extend family discussions with forecasts covering endless weeks and months of service needs. Rather, position home assistance as a benefit for today, or this week. This allows the elder to maintain control, and not feel burdened by a long term commitment. Initially, set minimal and flexible expectations. Get to know the senior(s), their daily routine and habits, within their living environment.

Start Slowly With HomeCare Services

Interestingly, elders may very well need to be “taught” how best to utilize in-home care staff. Many times these are seniors who have never wanted, needed, nor allowed any help in their daily lives. This can be explained in a variety of ways, not the least of which may include culture, family background, personal pride, shared responsibility with spouse or partner, etc.

Due to our experience, Home Care Partners staff provides insight to the client as to how we can best help. Skilled caregivers can positively effect an elder’s mood; provide assurance that current medications are on schedule; extend a hand on household chores such as vacuuming and laundry; assist on meal preparation and clean-up;  and confirm that meals have been eaten. Perhaps most importantly, our staff utilizes a daily record keeping system that documents observances and environment – which the extended family can access to review parental activities and ongoing health issues.